Just one change needed!!!

Woman, a mother, a wife, a daughter and a sister. A mother sacrifices her career for her children, a wife compromises her wishes for her husband, a daughter is not allowed to go out alone and a sister is treated more like a domestic worker than a family member. But why? Why all the rules and regulations are on women only? Ever since the independence struggle, the women have been fighting for two freedoms one from the Britishers and the other from the customs of the society that acted as a barrier for them. Today we are in the 21st century, independent and free…but is this true for women also?

The rules still remain the same for us. Once we get married We have to change our surnames, we are not allowed to go out after 8, Many of us are still forced to give up our dreams and live inside the big purdahs to hide our faces. I have seen criminals hiding their faces but we aren’t criminals. Why are we being punished for being born as a girl?? They say “Khud ko Dhako, Buri Nazar se baccho”.Our society wants to change our dresses but not the mindset of their boys. Just one change, one change in the mindset can change the world for every girl. There was this campaign started by some men a few years ago #notallmen, true not all men disrespect women, instead of many of them actually helped us to change people’s view, but #everygirl. Yes, every girl shares the same fear. People think nowadays women have turned feminists, no we are just asking for our rights that We deserve.

This year has been extremely special for all of us. The 11 girls in the cricket ground changed the whole nation’s view and the Muslim women won over the unfair triple talaq. In both these cases, the real Sheroes are the women who never ever lost their hope with so many obstacles. We are living in this fearful and unsafe world today, maybe because our traditions are made in this way, we tie ‘Rakhis’ to our brothers for protecting us rather than learning self-defence. It’s even sadder when women themselves torture their own daughters and daughters-inlaw or dowry or marriage.

It’s shocking when a woman is crying in grief when a girl is born after 9 months of the pain she suffered. It’s high time that we understand that once we give our girls a chance to fly, they will work and earn at par with the men. Every girl is just waiting for that one ‘yes’ from her parents, in-laws or grandparents to live her own life outside the kitchen or the house. Wishing all of us more power and I hope that we will soon see a world without any fear.